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 <span lo>This article is reprinted from [[https://us.cnn.com/2019/06/06/opinions/melisa-raney-coming-out-later-in-life-as-gay-lesbian/index.html | CNN]]. Melisa Raney is a freelance writer and editor who lives in Atlanta with her two children. The views expressed in this commentary are her own. \\ 本文转载自美国有线电视新闻网。Melisa Raney是一名自由撰稿人和编辑，与她的两个孩子住在亚特兰大。本评论中表达的观点仅代表她本人。</span>
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+You may notice some yellow <span hi>highlighted words</span> in the text that may be unfamiliar to you. There are explanations and pronunciation hints for these words at the bottom of the page. Good luck! :-D
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 {{ :asc:melisa-raney.jpg?250 |Melisa Raney}}\\ <span lo>Melisa Raney, the writer of this article.\\ 本文作者梅丽莎·兰尼。</span>
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-她的反应很完美，问她能不能买一面骄傲旗帜[(#3)]，并提出要告诉我父母。
+她的回复很完美，她问我要不要为我买一面骄傲旗帜[(#3)]，用以告诉我父母。
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+当天晚些时候，我收到了父母发来的两条最让我欣慰的短信。
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+{{ :asc:melisa-rancy-2.jpg?600 | Melisa's parents' texts.}}
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+I didn't realize until then how important it was to be accepted by my parents. I'm a grown woman, fully independent of my mom and dad -- but I still needed their love and acceptance.
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+直到那时，我才意识到被父母接受是多么重要。我已经是一个成年女人了，完全独立于我的爸爸妈妈——但我仍然需要他们的爱和接纳。
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+=== Living my truth - 活出自我 ===
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+Telling my family wasn't the end of my journey. I was finally figuring out who I was. Now I was ashamed by that answer.
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+告诉家人并不是我旅程的终点。我终于搞清楚了我是谁。现在我为这个答案感到羞愧。
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+That began to subside when I met other women in various stages of the coming out process, all on the same path. Hearing the experience of others felt like hearing my own: married to wonderful men, mothers of amazing kids, the perfect life practically every woman strives for.
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+当我遇到处于出柜过程不同阶段的其他妇女时，这种情况开始消退，她们都走在同一条路上。听到别人的经历就像听到我自己的经历一样：嫁给了优秀的男人，是了不起的孩子的母亲，几乎是每个女人都在努力追求的完美生活。
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+Through this group, led by a therapist, we quickly determined we are in this together. We were on a path that feels impossible to navigate until one day, you can live your truth and be perfectly fine shaping a new life.
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+通过这个由治疗师带领的小组，我们很快确定我们是在一起的。我们走在一条感觉不可能驾驭的道路上，直到有一天，你可以活出自己的真相，完全可以塑造新的生活。
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+That's what I'm striving to do now: shape a new life that includes my now ex-husband and my kids. Our family structure just looks a little different than it used to. We spend most holidays together, attend parent-teacher conferences, we even have plans to take the kids to Disney World in the fall.
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+这就是我现在正在努力做的事情：塑造一种新的生活，包括我现在的前夫和我的孩子。我们的家庭结构只是看起来和以前有些不同。我们大部分假期都在一起度过，参加家长会，我们甚至计划秋天带孩子们去迪斯尼世界玩。
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+We no longer have the perfect suburban home together, but we are both navigating new relationships and have found people who understand the importance of us both being present for our children.
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+我们不再一起拥有完美的郊区住宅，但我们都在驾驭新的关系，并找到了理解我们都是为人父母的重要性的人。
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+On New Year's Day this year, I came out on social media. I expected to see my friend list tick down but instead I was met by love and support. So many people choose to keep their private lives private, which I absolutely understand and respect.
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+今年元旦，我在社交媒体上出柜。我本以为会看到我的好友名单会越来越短，但我却得到了爱和支持。所以很多人选择保留自己的私生活，我绝对理解和尊重。
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+But what so many don't realize is that sharing your tough moments can make other people's tough moments a little easier.
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+但很多人没有意识到的是，分享你的艰难时刻可以让别人的艰难时刻变得更轻松一些。
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+I don't think I would have been able to accept who I am as quickly as I did without the changes in American society in recent years. When I was growing up in the 1980s, someone's sexuality was only spoken about in hushed voices, as if the person had a disease they didn't want others to know about.
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+如果没有近年来美国社会的变化，我想我不会像现在这样迅速地接受自己的身份。当我在上世纪80年代成长的时候，有人的性行为只会被人悄悄地说起，就好像这个人得了一种不想让别人知道的病一样。
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+Democratic presidential candidate Pete Buttigieg -- who, like me, is in his late 30s and, like me, came out publicly just a few years ago -- put it this way: "It's hard to face the truth that there were times in my life when, if you had shown me exactly what it was inside me that made me gay, I would have cut it out with a knife. If you had offered me a pill to make me straight, I would've swallowed it before you had time to give me a sip of water."
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+民主党总统候选人皮特·布提吉格——他和我一样，已经30多岁，和我一样，几年前才公开出柜——他这样说：“很难面对这样的事实，在我的生活中，有几次，如果你让我知道我的内心到底是什么让我成为同性恋，我会用刀子把它切出来。如果你给我一颗让我变直的药丸，我就会在你给我一口水之前把它吞下去。”
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+There is so much truth in his statement. There was such a big part of me that did not want to be gay. I think you'd be hard-pressed to find a gay person over the age of 30 who hasn't felt this way.
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+他的说法有很多道理。我内心有很大一部分不想成为同性恋。我想你很难找到一个30岁以上的同性恋者没有这种感觉。
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+On the flip side, it is getting better for younger generations. When I told my kids last year that if mom remarries, it will be to a woman -- it didn't faze them in the least.
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+从另一个角度看，年轻一代的情况正在好转。当我去年告诉我的孩子们，如果妈妈再婚，一定要找一个女人时，他们丝毫不为所动。
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+Throughout all of this, I would have loved to have known that I was going to come out on the other side and be OK. And I want people reading my story to know that it's OK to be the person you're meant to be -- no matter what your age is when you finally get to know yourself and love who you are in the process.
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+在所有这一切中，我很想知道，我将走出另一边，并且没事。我想让读我故事的人知道，当你最终认识自己并在这个过程中爱上自己的时候，无论你的年龄是多少，都可以成为你注定要成为的那个人。
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+==== Footnotes - 脚注 ====
+~~REFNOTES~~
+==== Words - 词汇 ====
+  - **Sexuality spectrum:** 性频谱

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